Ms-HD Speaks

Dear Ms-HD,

I have a friend who gets very affectionate with me every time she drinks. She is straight and I am gay and out. She tells me "you're my everything" , I can be myself with you because I know you will never judge me. The last time she got drunk, I pop kissed her twice (to make sure the first time was not a mistake). She says she does not remember anything. She is in a relationship with a guy, who she has admitted she is not in love with. She is straight. I confronted her about the way she acts under the influence and she claims not to remember. I don't believe she doesn't remember! She also said she didn't know why she acts this way when she's drunk? We have a very strong friendship, and I know for a fact that she cares for me deeply. However, could there be something more than just a friendship?


Ms-HD speaks:

You ask, " could there be something more than just a friendship?" and
the answer is pretty obviously, "No."  Whether that is because she is
straight, or just not ready to deal with whatever feelings she might
have for you "beyond" friendship, it is not there.

If you would like something to be there, then you need to let her know
that her "uninhibited" moments are difficult for you, and the two of
you need to avoid those times.

I would urge you to *not* take advantage of those moments, for so long
as she is not ready or willing to figure out what is going on with
her, you would be risking losing the friendship.



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