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"Gay Politics: Online & With an Edge"
EX-GAYS A GO GO
Is there a schism in the gay-bating ranks?
Our cousins the "ex-gays" in Exodus International (no relation to
Dana International) are holding an annual conference in the Chicago suburbs this
week. Exodus became well known in gay circles after its two founders, Michael
Bussee and Gary Cooper, fell in love and quit the organization, becoming perhaps
the world's first ex-ex-gays. Bussee subsequently told a reporter that
"after dealing with hundreds of people...[he and his lover hadn't] met one
who went from gay to straight. Even if you manage to alter someone's sexual
behavior, you cannot change their true sexual orientation." Oops. With that
in mind, I found an interesting admission in the July 27, 1999 Associated Press
story on the "ex-gay" conference: "The group acknowledges that
for some homosexuals, changing their orientation will prove impossible."
Hello? Fringe-right activists like the Family Research Council, the Reverend
Fred Phelps, and the American Family Association have been telling us for years
that being gay is an evil "choice," and that all we need to do is find
Jesus and we'll be saved (let's ignore for a moment that many of us
"found" Jesus way before these folks were even born - and that others
believe in faiths that don't worship Jesus, and in America, that's ok). Yet the
"ex-gays" have admitted for years that some, if not most, gays can't
change. And if most gays can't change, it not only means the "ex-gay"
movement has no clothes, but also that being gay isn't a choice - both points
completely undercutting the intolerant political agenda of the religious right
political groups. In view of the ex-gay admission in the AP story, I thought
it'd be interesting to go through my files and review the other damaging things
ex-gays have admitted about the failure rate of their movement, and the choice
issue. And boy, did I find some doozies. I might recommend sharing these tidbits
with local reporters and politicians next time the ex-gay/choice issue comes up:
- ONLY A 'MINORITY' ARE SUCCESSFUL
USA Today, August 4, 1998: Bob Davies of Exodus International:" 'There
are no statistics,' Davies says, but 'I would say that a minority of
individuals coming through these ministries have made it in the long run ..
. remained free of homosexual behavior for five years or more.' And he says
even fewer develop full-fledged attractions for the opposite sex or go on to
- TWO-THIRDS FAIL
Village Voice, August 11, 1998: "NARTH and Exodus, the largest
Christian ex-gay ministry, both claim 'cure' rates of about one third."
- 'MANY' CAN'T BE CURED
San Francisco Chronicle, August 19, 1998 - refering to Frank Worthen, the
"grandaddy" of the ex-gay movement: "the Worthens admit that
many of their former proteges decide their homosexuality cannot be
- 'MOST' CAN'T CHANGE
Village Voice, August 11, 1998 - Michael Johnston, President of Kerusso
Ex-Gay Ministries, and big "ex-gay" poster child: " 'I don't
believe men and women can go into therapy and come out the other end
heterosexual,' says Johnston. He says that God has changed his own sexual
desires from gay to straight but, he insists, 'I don't think most of us have
experienced that in the long run.' To promise a cure is 'setting someone up
for a great deal of frustration. Christian law is not about eliminating
sinful desires, it's about overcoming them.'"
- IT'S NOT A CHOICE
Newsweek, August 17, 1998 - Anthony Falzarano, president of Transformation
Ministries, is quoted: "[Anthony] Falzarano [the head of Transformation
Ministries]....raises his voice a notch. 'Homosexuality is not a lifestyle
- BEING 'EX-GAY' NOT AKIN TO BEING STRAIGHT
Wall Street Journal, April 21, 1993 - John Paulk, prominent
"ex-gay" poster child and employee of Focus on the Family: "I
don't know if I'll ever have the intensity for sex with women that the
average man on the street has."
So, will someone tell me why these guys get so much press when they only have
1,000 people attend their conference (there are millions of us) and when they
admit they have virtually no success?
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