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Coming Out Stories Gallery - Youth Stories
(People who were out to themselves and/or others before they became adults.) 
Hundreds of gay men and lesbians share their stories of self-awareness and discovery, no two stories exactly alike, but all remarkably similar in that *lightbulb* moment of realization, "Yes, I am gay.

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Abbie's Story
I am 18, and as I grasp this issue of homosexuality, I realize that it is something I always knew, sort of a silent understanding with myself, but life went on, and growing up I never made it a big issue. I felt different from a very early age, but than again, I never knew was it was like to be very normal anyway, so I figure that I didn't miss much. Having an older brother guaranteed me to an adolescence of tomboy activities... Continued

Alan 2's Story
I am 13 years old. I think I've been gay for about 3 year but I've only KNOWN since I was about 11. When I was 12 I came out to my best friend, who I'll call 'T'. I'd been trying to tell him for about a month... Continued

Aleia's Story
I am scared shitless. I'm 14 & I'm a bisexual. I've known my whole life. I finally came to terms with it last year, after me and a friend of mine kissed. She had always known too... Continued

Allyson's Story
I was twelve when I realized I was a lesbian it was hard for me because I had been dealing with other issues... Continued

Anastasia's Story
Well I started this new school, made tons of friends and over time I developed a huge crush on one of my close friends..well I would think about her day and night, and at times it would get so hard to keep it inside... Continued

Ann's Story
I was 17 yrs old when I finally had the strength to admit to myself and everyone else that I was bisexual I was not comfortable saying those word about myself... Continued

Anna's Story (2) NEW
I am bisexual and I'm 12. I've known almost all my life. I mostly swing towards girls, but i fall for guys sometimes too... Continued

Annabelle's Story
Who knew that 17 would be such a memorable year? I guess you could say that living at boarding school and being gay is hard....(living with a ton of girls while figuring out sexuality, etc.... Continued

Anny's Story
I can recount sexual experiences with other girls since I was about 7 yrs old. My first was with my cousin who was about 9. I used to stay at their house for a week at a time out of state... Continued

Ash's Story
I suppose it was an episode of "One day at a Time" that really did it for me. There I am a young male ... Continued

Ashley's Story
I have always been attracted to guys, from a very young age. I never really thought about being with girls, but I have always been very open-minded about sex in general... Continued

Ashton's Story
10 years ago, when I was 17, I had my first gay experience, which confirmed my feelings for the same sex, although I had known for some time before this. Hopelessly in love, I was clumsy with my discretion, and my sister had found a letter from my boyfriend, Chris... Continued

Barb's Story
I grew up in a small town in Northeastern Kentucky. Also know as the Bible Belt Gossip Belt of the world. I remember having my first real crush on a girl when I was six... Continued

Barbara's Story
I was 10 when I had my first experience with another girl. She was my best friend, and our relationship went on for a couple months... Continued

Beth's Story
Well I'm a Transsexual (still pre-hormones but close) I am 18 and started coming out 2 years ago but I'm still kinda working at it... Continued

Boogie's Story
Well, I'm a female about the age of 17. I came out of the closet to my mother but feel that due to religious reasons I have been pushed back in. It was at the age of six that I realized I was different from the rest of my peers. Like any other elementary school girl I kept a close alliance with friends, but there was always something more, a deeper thing like, hey lets play house I'll be the mommy and so can you... Continued

Brett's Story
You know everyone of us have skeletons in the closet, and for the first 18 years of my life I found myself standing next to the skeleton too afraid to move... Continued

Brian's Story (2)
I knew I was gay since I was thirteen. But because of the small town I lived in, the narrow minded family I belonged to, and the church I attended, there just wasn't any benefit in coming out... Continued

Brian F.'s Story
I first suspected that I was gay when I was about 10 years old, before I even knew that gay meant homosexual. Not that it mattered--I had no idea what a homosexual was either... Continued

Buck's Story
It was pretty easy. Seems like everyone knew in my family already. My mother has suggested that I go visit my gay brother in San Diego and go to college. I did... Continued

Cathy's Story
I was 16.I was at a party with a group of friends when a guy suggested that we all play wet t-shirts... Continued

Chrissy's Story
I realized I was attracted to girls when I was in high school. I didn't act upon it at the time, I just simply put it out of my mind... Continued

Christine's Story
So I'm a junior in high school and it's quite interesting. I've always been open to the possibility of being a lesbian, bisexual, straight-whatever... Continued

Cindy's Story
Lesbian.. a word that I never knew what the meaning was.. till I found out that is who I am, and always was. Around the age of ten I had feelings toward girls... Continued

Dan 3's Story
I've known I was gay since I was 12. I'm 19 now, and only my two best friends know; I didn't even tell THEM until I was 18. I spent 6 years in hell, and although my life is better now, I'm still afraid and I still suffer in silence everyday. But I'm here, as I understand it, to tell how I came out... Continued

Dana's Story
Well I kind of figure I was gay even back in high school. I use to look at guys in the locker room and jerk off quite a bit. Now at the age of 35 with a wife and two kids... Continued

Darren's Story NEW
I was about 10 years old when I realized that I was not like other boys. I had crushes on several boy in my class but it was around 5th grade when I had my first sexual experience with another boy and that went on until we were Freshmen in high school. I grew up in a small town in South East Kansas and the only social life was church. That is where I learned to feel ashamed of who God made me to be... Continued

Dave's Story
In retrospect, I have become aware that I was absolutely sure I was gay a long time before I knew what the word meant. My earliest memory on this was from kindergarten; we were cutting pictures out of catalogues for a President's day project. I ended up cutting out pictures of guys in their underwear and wiping saliva on their crotches. At the time, my defense was that I was trying to make it look like they'd wet their pants. It was meant to be a joke; now, it seems like more of a "subtle" clue... Continued

Dave's Story (2)
I had always known that I liked men. I knew I liked their bodies anyway, at least from the time I was four years old. But that is another story. No, no bad sexual thing ever happened to me when I was a child... Continued

David's Story
I remember when I was 11 years old and sitting in front of the TV watching an episode of "60 Minutes" focusing on the recent HIV/AIDS epidemic. They said something about gays, and it struck me like a 10-ton boulder.... Continued

Dawn's Story
looking back on my childhood I'm surprised that I didn't notice my queerness earlier. all the times when I was little that I heard the word "lesbian" and thought, "yeah, that's what I am" really casually, little-kid like... Continued

Dawn's Story (2)
looking back on my childhood I'm surprised that I didn't notice my queerness earlier. all the times when I was little that I heard the word "lesbian" and thought, "yeah, that's what I am" really casually, little-kid like. or the time that I told my mom I was going to dress up my best friend and marry her... Continued

Dormus (Nick)'s Story
My coming out story may no be the most interesting one or the newest... Continued

Ed's Story
"I knew as a teen I was destined for more than adolescent experimentation..." Continued

Eric's Story
Well I don't know really where to start but from the beginning. As I was growing up in the social structure of life I realized that I had these different emotions running through my body that I didn't understand... Continued

Frenchy's Story  
I'm an 18 year old girl, and I discovered I was bisexual a year ago. I have always been curious about girls, but I never thought I had so much curiosity. I mean, I always dated guys, I even lost my virginity to one, but things weren't just the same... Continued

Galalea's Story
Well, I'm 13. I figured out I was bi about a year ago, cuz I had a crush on my two best friends. One was a boy, and the other a girl... Continued

Ginger's Story
My first semi-erotic thoughts were actually quite young and involved only females. I was always attracted to women until I was 12 and my cousin told me what a lesbian was! I felt really confused at this point because she told me it was unnatural and I didn't want to be unnatural... Continued

Haley's Story
I came out when I was about 14. I spent the night at my friend's house because she was having a slumber party. There were about 10 girls there. We played truth or dare and one of my friends asked me to French kiss the girl to my right... Continued

Harvey's Story
I grew up in a small jersey shore town, my father was just out of the army, my mother was a nurse. I was the only child for five years... Continued

Horatio's Story  
Well, I guess the first indication I had of my gaiety was when I had my first real crush in sixth grade. It was on this boy named Russell, who is a dear, sweet, boy and who is a wonderful friend... Continued

Howard's Story
It's always difficult to know where to begin. Do I do it all chronologically and start by writing about how I used to get... (Note: Story contains sexual language and concepts) Continued

Janie's Story
"My coming out story was one of the hardest things I have ever gone through..." Continued

Jason 2's Story
I remember standing in field behind our apartment complex with my step-brother. I was newly 18 - he was a vastly older brother at 19. I had dragged him there after dinner to tell him some 'really important news'. We'd been there for nearly an hour. Me unable to form the words and he passing the time by trying to guess it out of me... Continued

Jay's Story
I started noticing that I was different around age 11 when I would look at other guys my age and older... Continued

Jennifer's Story
My name is Jennifer. I wrote a story almost a year ago. It is known as Nancy's story. I am 17 and my parents still don't really know that I am lesbian... Continued

Jessica's Story  
I am 17 years old and growing up I always felt different from others. My good friends were guys and I was a total tomboy. In my sophomore year, I was dating this wonderful guy...but I realized that I had a crush on one of my friends (a girl)... Continued

Jessica's Story new
I went to an all-girls Catholic high school where coming out was unfathomable. In this environment, girls behaved differently than they might have in a coed environment: playing with each other's hair, sitting on each other's laps, linking arms, etc. It was all part of the culture there, so when I did these sort of things with my best friend, I dismissed it as normal... Continued

Jim's Story
In 1963, just before I left home, I told my mother that I was gay. She was a little confused, but as far as I could tell not devastated and so some years later when I got married... Continued

John's Story
I came from a small city and small city also means small minds. For many many years I hide the fact that I know that I was gay since my early days... Continued

Jon's Story
To quote someone (the name is escaping me "I did not come out of the closet, it burnt down around me." I'm 16... Continued

Joy's Story
"I was 12 years old when I met Melissa. She was 20. We hung out, knocked over Taco signs (long story), screamed at passersby, went downtown, held parties, and generally were pains in the ass...." Continued

Kati's Story
I have always known that I wasn't like the other girls. I try to make sure I don't "fit in" and be my own person. I had thoughts about other girls when I was in the 5th grade... Continued

Kayla's Story
To be absolutely honest, I didn't come out on my own, I was pretty much dragged out of the closet. I hooked up with a girl that knew a lot more about being a lesbian than I did... Continued

Katy's Story
I was seeing this girl that I went to school with and my mom knew that something was going on but I had never really came right out and told her and then one day my mom called me into the other room... Continued

Kevin's Story
"Adolescent "exploration/experimentation" is what it is commonly known as. I just know that I have been attracted to other males since I reached that period in my life!..." Continued

Leon's Story
I was 13...I had come to the realization that I was gay 6 months ago. The first person I told was my Best friend. She was totally cool with it. Then I told my Sister in law and she was like "so" the next person I told was my aunt... Continued

M & M's Story
The day I came out the closet was the worst day of my life. I am a 18 yr old male, and I told my mother that I was gay when I was only 17... Continued

Magda's Story  
I'm 13 and I've sorta come out. Well... I'd always known I was different. When I was in 4th grade I always had dreams I was the "strong, brave, prince" and I was kissing girls. At first I shrugged it off, and the dreams disappeared... Continued

Makia's Story
I didn't think about being a lesbian or anything like that. I hadn't heard of it, but I did have an attraction to girls... Continued

Manna's Story new
Growing up i was always aroung lesbians, we had 2 living in our basement. My father was always a big influence on me in everything. He got me to listen to melissa etheridge. Then i guess it just took off from there. I always had an attraction to girls, but thiught that it was just a stage i would grow out of. When i was 16, my friends and i would go over to burger king after school almost everyday... Continued

Marc's Story
My story is but a simple but heart-breaking one. - I am 20 and out. I knew I was gay ever since I was 16... Continued

Mari-Elle's Story
My name is Mari-Elle and I am 17 years old female from Maine.  I don't really know what to talk about but here goes nothing. At first I didn't know what was going on and didn't want to accept that I was a lesbian. I thought that I was going through a phase and that it would go away. It never did...Continued

Matt's Story
I almost feel guilty sometimes that my coming out was so easy (except to my parents, which hasn't happened yet). Early in high school... Continued

Matt's Story (2)
It is tough to be gay. My name is Matt, I am a Syracuse University student and I am proud to be gay. Even though I have my pride, it has always been tough to be gay... Continued

Matt's Story (3)
My name is Matt. I come from a small town in Cape Cod Massachusetts called Centerville. Ever since I was young I knew I was gay. My father would always call me gay and said things like, "All you'll ever be is a gay fag-boy."... Continued

Matty's Story
Well this year two months from now I came out to my friends who were gay and bi whom I recently have gotten to know so well that I could tell them anything... Continued

MayaLynn's Story
Being a high functioning autistic, I always knew I was different. At 16 I realized how more different I was... Continued

Michah's Story
I think I always knew I was different. The first girl I ever had feelings for was my friend, when I was ten. I tried my best to pretend it was nothing, but when I was twelve I found myself attracted to another girl again... Continued

Michelle's Story
It was my junior year in high school when I first realized I was a lesbian. This girl named Kayla I had been friends with ever since before I was 5. We did everything best friends do... Continued

Mike T.'s Story
My first gay experience was when I was 14, and me and my best friend Kevin were on my bed when he kissed me and ripped off my shirt... Continued

Missy's Story
I was at the age of 11 when I realized that I had this liking for females. The person that I am I thought as if it was a phase I was going through and who to say that I was going to be this way forever... Continued

Nancy's Story
I never thought that coming out would be this rough. My parents know about me and have came close to disowning me... Continued "Nancy" updates her story

Nate's Story
I am seventeen years old and I know more about pain and internal turmoil than I would like. I used to think that I was alone and that something was wrong with me. I knew that to be truly happy I was going to have to start on a journey that would define me as a person... Continued

Nemesis's Story
I'm 17 (female), and just came out today. I have always had a slight attraction to other girls, but I thought it was just a phase for the longest time... Continued

Nicholas's Story
Well mine was a little weird. This is my story. I was 16 at the time and I was a sophomore in High School. Well I had always thought about coming out but I never knew how people would react... Continued

Nicole's Story
I was in 8th grade when I guess I "came out". I'd never before had any real inclination that I was attracted to women, so all the questions of "when did you realize..." were completely irrelevant... Continued

Paul's Story (3)
I think I had it a lot easier than most gay guys do. I knew I was gay since I was 6 and I was in my moms closet trying on her high heels. I think we all did at one stage or another. But when I started watching movies and paying more attention to the handsome, attractive actor instead of the beautifully, stunning actress, I knew something was up... Continued

Priscilla's Story
I've always felt more comfortable with other girls, maybe because I have 2 sisters of which I am the youngest. Jill was oldest and married when I was 12, but Erin, who is 2 years older, have been close. Growing up together we used to play wedding, I was always the bride who always got kissed. I never thought anything about it. Erin was sort of a tomboy then, but not now... Continued

Rachel's Story  
Since I was three I knew that I was attracted to women, but I never thought anything of it. I am currently 18... Continued

Red's Story
I was 13 when I had my first crush. Her name was Lisa I was going to class, and she was coming down the hall. I though that no one else was even there... Continued

Richard's Story new
I tink I have always known I am GAY since I was 17 eversince I would look at the other lads getting changed at catering college, whenever I would go shopping I would often go to a newsagents and buy gay porn mags... Continued

Robby's Story
Well, I should start by saying that I am a 17 year old male from San Antonio, TX. I have always felt as though there was something else to me than what met the eye. I, since the seventh grade, would get a crush on a male schoolmate (every now and then) whom I thought to be cute... Continued

Robert's Story
I was molested by my brother at the age of nine. That was my first encounter with a guy. Not to long after that my cousin and I started to experience in the gay life style. That acting out with my cousin lasted for five years... Continued

Robert 2's Story
I guess you could say that I did not come out of the closet I was pulled out. I had always known that I had feelings for guys more than I did for girls. When my family moved up to North Texas, I was forced to move with them. I made a lot of new friends and a lot of enemies but the friend that sticks out in my mind is my female friend Mae. She was the first person that I really came out to... Continued

Samanth's Story
I am only really half way out. I was 12 when I realized I fancied girls, I had boy who I was friends with but I looked at girls my first kiss was with a girl... Continued

Sammo's Story
Well at first I thought my feelings towards girls was just a passing faze but then when it didn't pass I realized that I was a lesbian. My whole coming out story was the worst thing that has ever happened to me... Continued

Sarah's Story
I came out to my friends when I was 15 that I was bisexual. It was really difficult because I go to an all girls school and it is Catholic... Continued

Sharon's Story new
Well, I'm 15, and like a lot of other people I think I had already known that I was attracted to girls. My parents have never sheltered me, and so from a young age I knew all about sex and things of that nature. TV ratings never really mattered to my parents either and so I would watch movies with heavy sexual content. ... Continued

Sky's Story
At 6, I fell in love. She transferred to another school. At 7, I fell in love. this time I was in love for two years. I fell out of love by nine ... Continued

Smile's Story
I remember having feelings for girls not only emotionally but physically. I'm 26 now and have know about my sexuality since I was in elementary school... Continued

Robert 2's Story
I guess you could say that I did not come out of the closet I was pulled out. I had always known that I had feelings for guys more than I did for girls. When my family moved up to North Texas, I was forced to move with them. I made a lot of new friends and a lot of enemies but the friend that sticks out in my mind is my female friend Mae. She was the first person that I really came out to... Continued

Stephanie's Story
I have to say that this is not actually a "coming out" story. It is what I have been through TRYING to come out. I have known for longer than I care to admit that I was "different" for lack of a better word... Continued

Susan's Story new
Where to begin... O.K. I was 14 and having a sleepover b-day party. A game of truth or dare was going around and I was dared to kiss my friend Rachel. I had done this before, at another party but that was just a peck. So, for 10 seconds, we kissed, tongue and all. Afterward, I just looked at her. We continued the game as if nothing had happend. I dwelled on that kiss for awhile... Continued

Tahnee's Story new
I have been trying to figure out for 12 years now who I was and I finally came in terms with myself last year. I'm 17 years old and i'm bisexual. It was hard at first to come out to people but the first person I came out to was my friend Ashley... Continued
I'm 16 years old and bisexual. Not bi-curious, not disappointed in relationships with guys, but smack in the middle bi. I've always been fighting for various causes, and now that I'm sure I'm bi, homosexual rights is way up there... Continued

Tim's Story
"Well, I'm ashamed to say there was a lot of serious denial. I told more truly cruel gay jokes than anyone else in my school, and probably inflicted a lot of misery on other gay students (if there were any) with..." Continued

Tracy's Story
I have known since I was in the fist grade that I was different. When I was 15 I had my first encounter with another girl... Continued

Travis's Story
Now, my coming out story. Hmmmmm. I never really thought I would be writing this. As a little kid I was always bombarded with negative criticism about gays... Continued

Trent's Story
I am 13 years old. I just started coming out to my friends about a month ago... Continued

Troy's Story
I don't think my story reflects the way it ought to be done, but I guess there's no right or wrong way to do it. I just wouldn't recommend this one... Continued

Anonymous Story 1
I knew I was a lesbian around the age of 13 ... which was when my family moved from Chicago to Northern Wisconsin. It was there that I first met the girl I was to love for the next 23 years; Carol. Unfortunately,..." Continued

Anonymous Story 2
I vaguely remember knowing I was different when I was in 2nd grade. But there were no words to describe it..." Continued

Anonymous Story 3
Submitted for your consideration. A coming out of another dimension, a dimension of dysphoria, disclosure and determination. Next stop: gender reassignment..." Continued

Anonymous Story 4
"It all started when I was 13. Yes, 13. It may seem like I was far too young to be 'coming out', but that's beside the point..." Continued

Anonymous 6
I choose to begin this story by saying that I have never felt that I have been in the closet. By that I mean that among my classmates, friends, and associates there were two, three or more people who seemed to be focused on and given attention to my sexual identity... Continued

Anonymous 7 New
I can recount sexual experiences with other girls since I was about 7 yrs old. My first was with my cousin who was about 9...

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